By Nibriti D
To me, being a woman means being a superhuman. One of my favorite YouTubers is SuperWoman and that is because I honestly think that every woman is a Super Woman. Not only are we capable of changing diapers and stocking up the pantry with the correct juice boxes but we also have this magical ability to locate that missing sock or charger.
No, I do not have any human children at the moment but I am a mom. I have an almost-3-year old 4-legged furry creature to whom I provide unconditional love and attention. My husband and I take turns taking care of her, I take care of her in the mornings and he takes care of her in the evenings. She reminds me every day that I am in fact a superwoman. In the mornings, I take care of her before I take care of myself. I go to work and come back with her as my priority: her food and potty times come before mine. I may be exhausted but I know that she needs her walk/exercise. Even as I am writing this, she is sitting next to me as a reminder that I have done something right in my life. And to me that is what being a woman means: just doing something that you know in your heart is right.
What does it mean to be a woman? Is it to have a family and a household that you take care of and cook new delicacies every day or to study/work and bring something to the table along with your spouse/significant other? Or do you even need a spouse/significant other? Does being a Nepali woman mean wearing a saree and tilhari and observing every holiday/fast in the calendar year or does it mean to put on a suit and go out and meet people? Or is it the combination of the two? “Can I wear a tika to work today or am I going to be asked too many questions?” “Ugh I am running out of clean shirts. I wish I could just wear a kurta to work today.” “I wish I didn’t have to request time off for celebrating Dashain.” And last but not the least, “Can I wear these shorts to the community picnic?” Is our existence not just a big old quagmire of all these questions?
To me being a Nepali woman means being able to retain and pass down our culture and heritage without letting it suppress and dictate our lives. Being a Nepali woman means to be just that: a woman. It means having the heart to love and the drive to reach your goals in life. And how does one do that? Well isn’t that the million dollar question?
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