Book Review: Good Girls Marry Doctors

 

By Richa Pokhrel/@nepalichoriblog

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Photo credit: Aunt Lute Books

The first book I have read this year was Good Girls Marry Doctors. It’s an anthology of stories from South Asian women. The theme is obedience and rebellion. There are 26 stories. It’s easy to read the book in one day. Each story is different and each women has their own take on what it means to be obedient and rebellious. I found the book to be about survival, strength, and courage.  It gave me comfort in knowing that I am not alone in this.

Since the US election, I have been in a gloomy state, not unlike many others. For the past few weeks I haven’t wanted to leave my house for many reasons, mostly the lack of optimism about the state of the country and the world.  However, after reading this book, I have found some courage to not let fear take over my life. I don’t think I have a favorite story, all of them were good. Some were harder to read than others. The story that was hardest for me to read was “Amma” by Hema Sarang-Sieminski. My childhood was completely different from hers, but I cried so much when I read this. There are a lot of hard elements to the story and I don’t want to give them away, but it has to do with abuse. I immediately googled her after finishing her story and I was glad to know that she is okay and happy. I will warn you that there will be tears, tears of pain, tears of sadness, but also tears of joy. The book is a bag of mixed emotions.

One thing I noticed about the book is that there aren’t any Nepali or Bhutanese submissions. Afghanistan and the Maldives are part of South Asia too. I am pretty sure India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, and Sri Lanka are represented. Also something else that I noticed was that many of the women grew up in households with doctors, engineers, professors, mostly middle class households. I wasn’t sure if there were women who grew up in lower income households. I wish there was more of that too. These are not criticisms of the book because I obviously loved it. They are just things I noticed. I highly recommend this book to you.

Growing up as a Nepali woman/South Asian woman, we have to deal with a lot of sh*t. I’m sorry to curse, but it’s true. We survive though, we do it with dignity and courage. No matter what kind of lifestyle each of us Nepali woman lives, we’ve all had hard times. We all obey and rebel in our own ways. I hope you see Nepali Chhori as a place to be yourself, to speak your mind, and not be afraid to share. I found the book to be very similar to what we are trying to achieve here.

This year, we are adding book reviews as a new addition to this site. We would like to review books written by South Asian women. Please share books in both Nepali and English. Unfortunately, I can’t read Nepali, but others can. HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE! Stay strong!

12 thoughts on “Book Review: Good Girls Marry Doctors

  1. Angela says:

    Awesome! I’ll have to check this book out.

    One of my favorite authors is Chitra banerjee divakaruni. She’s from India and actually spent some time in the Bay Area — it’s cool to recognize the places and neighborhoods in some of her books!

  2. Sad to hear that there is no Nepalese representation in this book though… I’m Indian-American myself, but I’d really like to see more Nepalese representation in books and media. The South Asian community in general is not given much representation in media, but unfortunately when we are, everybody seems to be clumped together as “Indian”. Although, different groups within the South Asian community share many similarities, each story is unique and deserves to be heard. For example, I’m sure the Indian-American experience is similar to a Nepalese-American in some ways, but they are also very different and I hope that both our similarities and differences will be represented in the future.

  3. Thank you for your comment. I totally agree about the lack of Nepali representation but I can’t be too mad though, it’s just nice for South Asians to be represented. Let’s hope all that will change in the near future. 🙂

  4. Kanchan says:

    Looking forward to reading this book!
    Also, i totally agree about the post election gloom- but we must remember never to lose hope and rally 🙂

  5. Women’s rights are steamrollered in Nepal, few property rights, lower career opportunities, servants in male marriage home etc. These are the issues to fear and to protest about too.

    • You are right, there are a lot of issues that affect Nepali women. Big things, small things, everything in between. Living in a patriarchy society creates notions that women are not worthy of equality.

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