My Failed New Year Goals

By: Richa Pokhrel/@nepalichoriblog

Photo credit: Sarah Hedden Photography

Are you one of those people who sets new (or old) goals/resolutions at the beginning of each year? I certainly am! Most of my past goals have revolved around getting more exercise, taking time to write  consistently, spending less time in front of a screen, and being more adventurous. Most of the time, these goals are lofty, meaning I want to go from 0% to 100% immediately. There is no build up to reaching that final goal. What I found myself doing after the first few weeks in January is coming up with excuses – it’s too hard, my knees hurt, I already walked the dog so I’m tired. Frankly, I was just very lazy.

For this new year I haven’t set any goals, I am just not very good at sticking to them. Last year, I vowed to run at 5K, I bought new shoes and new exercise clothes, but hey I only ran 3 times and I stopped. I know I have never liked to run so why did I set a goal that I should run? For me that was the formula for failure, choosing something that I had no interest in doing for the sake of doing it. The point of that goal was to incorporate more exercise in my life and I found other ways to do that with activities I enjoyed ( riding a bike to work a few times a week and doing 30 minute YouTube workouts a few times a week). This year I want to set intentions. What is the difference between intentions, resolutions, and goals you may be asking yourself.  According to Dictionary.com,  an intention is ” a thing intended, an aim or plan.” A goal on the other hand is, “the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result.” A resolution is “a firm decision to do or not do something.” Um, they all sound very similar to me!

My intentions this year are to take time to write an hour a week, to spend an evening or two away from a screen, not be obsessed with checking US news. I intend to be helpful to my community, I intend to give away more to charity, and just be more patient. These are not big grand plans, rather they are little bit more than what I am doing now. They are things that I can feel good about and not set myself up for failure. I have come to realize that I am very good at making excuses and these feel like things that I can’t get myself out of. Well, hopefully not! We are in the middle of January and I am feeling good about where I am right now and what directions I see myself going in this new year. Only time will tell what will happen, but the main thing is not to beat myself up for anything that I don’t set out to achieve. If the effort is there and I tried my best, I am going to be happy with that. I know that’s easier said than done! In the end, the most I can do for myself is try.

*What are your intentions this year? Please share!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *