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Postponed Another Moment

By Bandana Upadhya

Artist credit: Shiloh Sophia

“Oh no, oh no, oh no,” my frontal lobe repeated, the panic starting to travel from my brain to my throat, heart, and stomach. I escaped to the obvious place, the bathroom. A bathroom holds many secrets for a woman; its four walls can tolerate any truth, any amount of frustration and endless tear-laden and fear-driven moments. My husband shouted from the bed, “are you alright?” I don’t think I said the ‘Oh no’ out loud, or maybe I did. I think he was worried because I ran off, and even the least attentive man would notice their wife run away in the circumstances in which I ran. ‘No I am not alright,’ I wanted to scream. It usually takes me some time to reveal my vulnerabilities, so I pretended not to hear. He asked again. ‘Just leave me alone!’ I wanted to shout this time round. Instead I said, “I am fine”. The “fine” was unhelpful but it gave me a little more time with the mess in my head.   Continue reading “Postponed Another Moment”

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Gauthalika Kathaharu

Happy New Year everyone! Sending you best wishes in this upcoming year! This year I am going to start by telling you about a new show that premiered on Himalaya TV, a series worth watching! I have a lot of TV shows that I like to watch, I don’t usually watch many Nepali/Indian shows because I find them to be too dramatic and sometimes superficial. They are too much like soap operas and I am just really not into that. Gauthalika Kathaharu reached out to us about posting about their show. At first I was very skeptical because I didn’t think it was going to be very good. Boy, was I wrong! I found the episodes (I’ve only seen the first 3 episodes) to be very moving, and well told.  The issues vary from episode to episode, but it focuses on friendship, love, family dynamics, breaking expectations, and much more. Frankly I am very impressed with it. Did I mention the best part? The series is led by mostly women, both the Executive Director and Executive Producer are women, which is a BIG DEAL!

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Nepal’s First Transgender Model

By Isha Shresta

Photo credit: Anjali Lama’s facebook


The fashion industry has long been dominated by tall, skinny women – often with European features. In fact, more than 70% of models cast for the 2017 Spring fashion weeks in New York, London, Paris and Milan were white, per the diversity report by The Fashion Spot. So, when I heard about an up-and-coming Nepali transgender model, I was intrigued.
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Book Review: Good Girls Marry Doctors


By Richa Pokhrel/@nepalichoriblog

Photo credit: Aunt Lute Books

The first book I have read this year was Good Girls Marry Doctors. It’s an anthology of stories from South Asian women. The theme is obedience and rebellion. There are 26 stories. It’s easy to read the book in one day. Each story is different and each women has their own take on what it means to be obedient and rebellious. I found the book to be about survival, strength, and courage.  It gave me comfort in knowing that I am not alone in this. Continue reading “Book Review: Good Girls Marry Doctors”

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The Battles We Fight

By Richa Pokhrel/@richapokhrel

Photo credit: Rhijuta Dahal

I have written a piece before about how we should have more courage to stand up to the atrocities we see in our societies, but lately I have been thinking about battles within our families and  communities. Recently when I was at a relatives’ house, their youngest daughter told me a story about her interaction with another male family member. In that story, she said that one of her uncles had asked her to get her something from the kitchen, she said no and told him that he should get it himself. He was an abled bodied man who could get whatever he desired. I was proud of her because she stood her ground. However, it made reflect on conforming and confronting in our families. Continue reading “The Battles We Fight”

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Happy Teej!

Photo credit: Wikipedia

For those of you who celebrate, wishing you a beautiful few days! For those of those of you who don’t celebrate, check out our past entries on the holiday.

  1. Why I Choose To Celebrate Teej
  2. Speaking Up & Teej
  3. Bejeweled & Hungry

*Are you celebrating this year? If so, how? If you are not celebrating, what are you doing instead?


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Diaries of a British-Nepalese Bride: Namesake

By Bandana Upadhya

Photo Credit: Navin Mistry

Marriage has uncovered – with full force – personal vulnerabilities that I had not anticipated. At each step I have been overwhelmed with an intense need to question and subsequently reorganise my sense of personal identity. At the very core of this struggle has been the question of whether or not to adopt my husband’s surname. Continue reading “Diaries of a British-Nepalese Bride: Namesake”