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Taking Risks

By Kanchan Gautam

On a cold February afternoon, I looked out the window of my airplane and a sort of nervous calm took over me. I was on a flight from North Carolina to California. It had been raining all day and my tan loafers were soaked from walking around in the rain all afternoon in Raleigh. I had spent the day with my sister exploring the city while we waited for our late afternoon flight. We would run inside stores seeking shelter from the winter rain. My toes were starting to wrinkle inside my cold wet shoes. I was excited but the kind that is filled with anxiousness and uncertainty. I kept thinking what’s my next step and planning, eventually, I decided to stop planning and enjoy that exact moment which I knew I would never be able to experience again. Continue reading “Taking Risks”

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A Brown Woman’s Version of Kipling’s If…

By Rhijuta Dahal/@RizDh 

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This piece is inspired by British writer Rudyard Kipling’s famous poem If (1910). He is also the author of The Jungle Book.  Continue reading “A Brown Woman’s Version of Kipling’s If…”

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Devi, Diva, or the Devil

By Anuja KC/@Anzkc

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I recall the days when I was in school, probably in 6th grade doodling images of houses, cars, trees and everything that filled my imagination while my teacher would lecture to his heart’s content about things that never mattered to me. I was delusional yet very creative at heart. What seemed to my teachers as a diligent note taking was actually my secret escapade to the world of imaginations and possibilities. Sketching was my form of self expression for things that I feared verbalizing in front of the whole class. If I had to summarize my young self in one word, it would be “Devi”. For those who are familiar with Hindu mythology, Devi is a gendered specific term for a female deity, a goddess. In colloquial Nepali language, “Devi” is synonymous to a female who is decent, diligent, disciplined and full of good qualities that society expects a woman should have.

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Morality and Victim Blaming in South Asian Societies

By Kanchan Gautam

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Recently while browsing through a selection of movies on Netflix, I happened upon a Bollywood movie. Usually, I stay away from Bollywood cinema, as they tend to lack depth and are riddled with gender role stereotypes. However, when I saw the description for Pink, I was intrigued. It seemed to veer from the typical Bollywood story of romance and thrills.  Additionally, with 136 minutes run time, it seemed to be reasonably short for Bollywood standards, so I decided to throw caution to the wind and watch it. I have to say besides the melodramatic portrayal of a retired lawyer played by Amitabh Bachan and some unrealistic court scenes, the movie’s depiction of how assault victims are treated in South Asian culture is very accurate. We have seen this many times, not just in Asian cultures, but here in Western society as well. People tend to blame the victim for their assault rather than the perpetrator for their actions. Continue reading “Morality and Victim Blaming in South Asian Societies”

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The Battles We Fight

By Richa Pokhrel/@richapokhrel

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I have written a piece before about how we should have more courage to stand up to the atrocities we see in our societies, but lately I have been thinking about battles within our families and  communities. Recently when I was at a relatives’ house, their youngest daughter told me a story about her interaction with another male family member. In that story, she said that one of her uncles had asked her to get her something from the kitchen, she said no and told him that he should get it himself. He was an abled bodied man who could get whatever he desired. I was proud of her because she stood her ground. However, it made reflect on conforming and confronting in our families. Continue reading “The Battles We Fight”

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Relocation- My Knight In Shining Armor

By Kanchan Gautam

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As I am nearing my 30s, I find myself contemplating a lot about life accomplishments and what it means to be truly fulfilled and content with my life. This sort of crisis seem inevitable for anyone going through major life changes such as death, big move, divorce, pregnancy, birthdays, etc. Most people I have talked to have expressed similar dilemma and concern regarding where they are in their lives no matter what age; wondering if they are happy with what they have accomplished so far in life or if their career serves a bigger purpose than just to have financial security. At some point most of us start to wonder if we “sold out” on our childhood goals and dreams and if a younger version of ourselves would be proud of what we have become. Continue reading “Relocation- My Knight In Shining Armor”

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Man in The Mirror – Looking at Male Privilege in Nepali Society

*Something new on the blog today! We have a male voice speaking about male privilege in our society. We hope you like that we’ve switched things up a bit. Please discuss.

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