Jhamak Kumari Ghimire receives honorary PhD from President

Morality and Victim Blaming in South Asian Societies

By Kanchan Gautam

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Recently while browsing through a selection of movies on Netflix, I happened upon a Bollywood movie. Usually, I stay away from Bollywood cinema, as they tend to lack depth and are riddled with gender role stereotypes. However, when I saw the description for Pink, I was intrigued. It seemed to veer from the typical Bollywood story of romance and thrills.  Additionally, with 136 minutes run time, it seemed to be reasonably short for Bollywood standards, so I decided to throw caution to the wind and watch it. I have to say besides the melodramatic portrayal of a retired lawyer played by Amitabh Bachan and some unrealistic court scenes, the movie’s depiction of how assault victims are treated in South Asian culture is very accurate. We have seen this many times, not just in Asian cultures, but here in Western society as well. People tend to blame the victim for their assault rather than the perpetrator for their actions. Continue reading “Morality and Victim Blaming in South Asian Societies”

Jhamak Kumari Ghimire receives honorary PhD from President

Relocation- My Knight In Shining Armor

By Kanchan Gautam

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As I am nearing my 30s, I find myself contemplating a lot about life accomplishments and what it means to be truly fulfilled and content with my life. This sort of crisis seem inevitable for anyone going through major life changes such as death, big move, divorce, pregnancy, birthdays, etc. Most people I have talked to have expressed similar dilemma and concern regarding where they are in their lives no matter what age; wondering if they are happy with what they have accomplished so far in life or if their career serves a bigger purpose than just to have financial security. At some point most of us start to wonder if we “sold out” on our childhood goals and dreams and if a younger version of ourselves would be proud of what we have become. Continue reading “Relocation- My Knight In Shining Armor”

Jhamak Kumari Ghimire receives honorary PhD from President

Hair + Beauty

by Richa P

 Recently I chopped off my long hair for a shorter style. It wasn’t the first time I have had short hair, I have had it short most of my life. I wish I was brave enough to go shorter but there is fear that I won’t look beautiful anymore. I think it a fear many of us have when we want to do something outside of the box when it comes to our appearance. This notion of hair and beauty made me think of the very narrow definition we have in Nepalese culture. The definition of beautiful in our culture is for a woman to be of average height, fair, not too chubby nor too skinny, having some curves, big eyes, and having beautiful long hair. But Nepal is a country that has many ethnic groups who look very different from one another so there is no way that should be what beautiful means. We are all beautiful no matter what we look like. Our movies, music, and magazines need to represent all kinds of girls, not just one kind. Continue reading “Hair + Beauty”