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Diaries of a British-Nepalese bride: ‘If you like it, then you gotta put a bangle on it…’

By Bandana Upadhya

Photo credit: Rhijuta Dahal

I was in Nepal recently during a festival called Teej, popularly termed a ‘women-only’ festival. Teej appears to go on for weeks in Nepal though it is primarily a fasting festival that lasts 24 hours, during which women –rightly or wrongly – make a 24 hour sacrifice of hunger and thirst in return for a specific blessing from Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati. The unmarried asks to be blessed with a “good” husband; while the married woman selflessly wishes that her husband is granted a long and healthy life. There might be other reasons for Teej, but these are the most commonly shared ones. Continue reading “Diaries of a British-Nepalese bride: ‘If you like it, then you gotta put a bangle on it…’”

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Happy Teej!

Photo credit: Wikipedia

For those of you who celebrate, wishing you a beautiful few days! For those of those of you who don’t celebrate, check out our past entries on the holiday.

  1. Why I Choose To Celebrate Teej
  2. Speaking Up & Teej
  3. Bejeweled & Hungry

*Are you celebrating this year? If so, how? If you are not celebrating, what are you doing instead?


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Diaries of a British-Nepalese Bride: Namesake

By Bandana Upadhya

Photo Credit: Navin Mistry

Marriage has uncovered – with full force – personal vulnerabilities that I had not anticipated. At each step I have been overwhelmed with an intense need to question and subsequently reorganise my sense of personal identity. At the very core of this struggle has been the question of whether or not to adopt my husband’s surname. Continue reading “Diaries of a British-Nepalese Bride: Namesake”

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Speaking Up & Teej

By: Rhijuta D

This week, we have a two part series  on the festival of Teej. Please share your thoughts as this is a festival that has varying opinions. Don’t forget to subscribe so you can get these discussion right in your inbox.

Last week, I sent my piece to my friend and my editor about Teej and Nepal, how the nostalgia I used to have of the festivities was now masked by the new middle class having elaborate parties and also being unclear on why women fast on this day. While writing the entry itself, I had done my most not to get carried away by my emotions and not sound too negative.  The Teej piece was just about my feelings when I was in Nepal around that time and because I do not celebrate, I stood out. During the process of finishing off the article, I had talked to my friends and few other people to get their opinions, some liked the festival for the sarees and the potays (beaded necklaces), some women wanted to fast for their husband,  and some felt forced too. Some women also said it was because they were Hindu so they would not question it as it is part of the tradition. I had concluded that entry by saying that maybe I am not Nepali enough to blindly accept this tradition, the same tradition I had fond memories of as a child and the same traditions I had not questioned when growing up outside of Nepal.

Continue reading “Speaking Up & Teej”